You’re Gonna Be Mad!

Freedom from guilt, shame and condemnation

My wife handed her the phone and you could hear the guilt and shame in her whimpering voice. My daughter Noelle was on the other end and she was struggling internally with what she knew she needed to tell me, but was afraid to say.

“What’s wrong, Noelle?” I asked.

Starting to cry she muttered, “I don’t want to tell you because you’ll be mad at me!”

She was afraid to tell me how she had messed up because of the fear of how I’d react.

It was then that I realized that many of us have this same view toward God. We know that we messed up. We know we did something we shouldn’t have. We feel guilty about it. We’re scared to admit it out loud because of the fear of what God will do to us or how He will view us.

I’m here to tell you, as someone who needs to hear this as much as anyone, that you need to stop thinking that way. God forgave you over 2,000 years ago when he came down to earth in the flesh to die for our sins. Romans 8:1 tells us,

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.”

So, whatever it is that you’re carrying around and won’t let go of because of guilt, shame or condemnation — let it go. You’ve already been forgiven and you’re already free of it. The enemy will use your guilt and your shame to try to make you feel condemned. It’s a trap! The enemy is a LIAR!

So many people walk around beating themselves up over what they’ve done or who they were that they inhibit themselves from being and becoming who they are meant to be. We read in Galatians 5:1:

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

Now, some people abuse God’s grace and think it’s ok to live in sin intentionally because, “Oh, well. God will forgive me.” That mindset is also one of the enemy’s lies! For later in Galatians 5, Paul says, “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” Paul also writes in Romans (6:15):

“What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means!”

So, to those who are saved and in Christ, let go of the guilt, shame and condemnation you are carrying around. Bring it before God and leave it at the foot of the cross and go on running the race that is set before you. Stop looking in your rear view mirror and start focusing on the road ahead. Turn your eyes upon Jesus.

And to everyone reading, whether you live in the Christian worldview in Christ or are an unbeliever ….remember that God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:17)

Bringing my story with Noelle full circle, I had to remind her that no matter what she did, I loved her. She was my child and even though she messed up and even though she has to pay consequences sometimes for her actions, it doesn’t change the fact that I love her. I had to shift her focus from the guilt and shame so that she knows she’s forgiven. It was a mistake. Mistakes happen. Now it’s time to learn from it, move on, and focus on what’s ahead so she doesn’t miss it while living in fear!

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